Tapestry of Faith: Virtue Ethics: An Ethical Development Program for High School Youth

Leader Resource 2: Loyalty Dilemmas

Part of Virtue Ethics

Dilemma 1

It is the classic best friends' dilemma: Friend A has decided that a behavior of Friend B has become intolerable and they can no longer hang out or be friends with B. They tell you (Friend C) that if you want to continue to be their friend, you need to stop associating with Friend B, too. What do you do? What do you say immediately to Friend A? How do you answer Friend B when they ask you if you know why Friend A does not return their phone calls? Who do you invite to the movies or your birthday gathering? Who do you call first to share good news or bad?

Dilemma 2

You have played baseball for many years. After all the years of practice, you are on the starting team and your team has a good chance of making the playoffs. There is one problem: This season, the practice time conflicts with the meeting time for your congregation's youth group. You are one of the co-leaders of youth group this year. You cannot be in two places at once. What do you do?