LeaderLab

Antidotes to Conflict Poisons Learning to Engage Lovingly

In UU congregations, conflict avoidance, a sense of urgency, and either/or thinking can make it difficult to engage conflicts well. Tema Okun identifies these as characteristics of white supremacy culture. Using her antidotes, we will learn to engage conflicts of various kinds in ways that lead toward Beloved Community.

Handouts

Questions for Reflection and Discussion

  1. Think of a conflict that you can remember from your own congregation. As you reflect on the characteristics of White Supremacy Culture that the workshop leaders named, try to identify some characteristics that showed up in your conflict. What do you notice about how those characteristics affected the conflict’s escalation? How did they affect its resolution?
  2. Reflecting on the same conflict: if you could go back in time, what antidotes would you apply? How might they have called forth a different way of responding or resolving this conflict?
  3. Of the Antidotes to White Supremacy Culture we discussed in the workshop, which speak to you the most? Why?
  4. Which Antidotes do you really need to take to heart? Which ones could be your touchstones the next time you find yourself in conflict in UU community?

About the Authors

Erica Baron

Rev. Erica Baron joined the New England region staff in 2019, focusing on helping congregations live into their missions and develop their gifts for spiritual leadership. Before joining the Congregational Life staff, she served as parish minister for the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of the...

Byron "Tyler" Coles

Tyler Coles (they/he) is native of Roanoke, VA, and the only child of Monica and Terry. Inspired by the good news of Unitarian Universalism, Tyler believes the best of our collective ministry strives towards conjuring "the Beloved Kin-dom on earth as it is in heaven."

Sarah Gibb Millspaugh

Bio for Rev. Sarah Gibb Millspaugh of the UUA Pacific Western Region's staff.

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