Black men are not a species. They, you, belong to humanity.

Arm's length: What was once a defensive or suspicious expression has now become a gesture of care, an indication of love and protection.

I feel disoriented when I’m in a new place or situation and can’t figure out whether the rules are real or imaginary.

It’s important to honor the footprint others leave on our heart.

In these days of so much uncertainty, may we choose honesty over comfort, love over complacency, and truth over convenience.

The harder things are to say, the more necessary they are to say.

Life is political, not because the world cares about how you feel, but because the world reacts to what you do.

None of us would be here were it not for those who lived and won a fight that they were not meant to survive.

When we feel overwhelmed, we gather to find a path, to find new ways forward.

Part of being in community is noticing what's needed. Part of being in community is doing what is necessary but unclaimed.

Advent is about the new story being written in our lives.

One day, I’ll have to care for my mother as she once cared for me. I’m not ready to handle the truth that our relationship must change.

Across the limits of our imagination, we are connected.

What once seemed certain is now unpredictable, even dangerous.

Over the years, I’ve built up an impressive array of tools for meetings: I-statements, being assertive, and all of that stuff. What I could improve on, though, is knowing when to switch tools.

I miss singing, the way we trusted/the air that moved between us. I miss/the casual assumption that everything/would be all right in the morning.

The most life-giving coping strategy—for me—is to attune to a voice calmer and wiser than mine, and allow that seeking to be its own expression of faith.

The assumption that all people remember the same set of events, or enjoy the same set of things, puts enormous burdens of assimilation onto members of marginalized communities.

Q: “I’m really struggling with my anger lately. I just feel angry all the time. What’s wrong with me?” There is nothing wrong with you because you are angry. Anger is a normal human instructional emotion, just like joy. It’s just that we as women—just like every marginalized...

It often feels like we’re shouting into the void. It was a gift to be reminded that sometimes someone is listening.