These guidelines are designed to facilitate healthy dialogue and deep listening in various situations and to create a safe space for meaningful conversation on all levels. When you are listening, suspend assumptions. What we assume is often invisible to us. We assume that others have had the same…

In relationships, a spirit of playfulness can ease tensions, build intimacy, facilitate connection, help us solve problems, and lower stress. Laughing, playing games, and using imagination and creativity can strengthen a relationship….

Leaders: Evaluations are conducted primarily for you and your congregation’s benefit. The UUA appreciates receiving copies of evaluations, the feedback from which can be used in future revisions of the curriculum….

Bring home a small gift for your partner, for no reason at all. Plan a surprise weekend away. It doesn’t have to be far away or expensive, as long as it’s just the two of you. Leave a message on your partner’s voice mail saying how important that person is in your life. Do a chore your partner…

Importance of Outcome Importance of Relationship High Med. Low High Collaborate Accommodate Med. Compromise Low Compete Avoid The grid above displays five styles of conflict engagement. Each style’s placement reflects its emphasis on relationship and outcome. Along the left side of the grid, the…

Below is a sample problem-solving chart. A couple used this chart to help solve their problem of what to do during an upcoming week off. First they came up with a list of interests that each of them would like to see reflected in their time off….

In his essay “Triangulating Love,” Robert J. Sternberg, professor of psychology at Tufts University, describes love in a way that may be particularly helpful to Principled Commitment participants….

We, the member congregations of the Unitarian Universalist Association, covenant to affirm and promote: …

Work in teams to find the answers to these questions. You may consult any resources you can access in your congregation’s building. Our congregation: What is the official name of our congregation? Who is the president/chairperson of the congregation? When was our congregation founded?…

Write whatever comes to mind in response to the two prompts below. I trust this relationship because … I sometimes withhold trust, or fear going deeper, because …

Our relationships can be reflections of our faith in the universe, in people, and in each other. As Unitarian Universalists, the seven Principles can be lights for us, guiding and illuminating our interactions. They can be values we affirm religiously and personally, as individuals and as couples.

Together, we covenant to explore and nurture healthy communication with our partners and others in our group. We will: Listen with an open mind and open heart Recognize each couple as being made up of two different people, each with his/her own perspective Respect the privacy of our fellow…

Describe Unitarian Universalism by filling in your group’s responses to the questions below. Who are Unitarian Universalists? What are our strengths? What are our roles? What are our important values? What are our ethics? How do we want to relate to the world? How do we want to relate to…

Communicating with a partner begins with appropriate effort and intention. This worksheet is designed to aid in that communication. Words from a covenant we have made in the past: ________________________________________________________________…