Faith Curricula Library: Tapestry of Faith: Principled Commitment: An Adult Program on Building Strong Relationships

Leader Resources in Principled Commitment

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Part of Principled Commitment: A Program for Unitarian Universalist Couples

  • Leader Resource 10: Order Of Service - Covenant
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 1: Covenant. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Reading Guided Meditation Poem Closing Words Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that in these workshops, participants will have an opportunity to explore many aspects of healthy,…

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Collaboration
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 8, Collaboration. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of collaboration….

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Commitment
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 9, Commitment. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of commitment….

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Connection
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 6, Connection. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of connection. Participants will explore how connections are established,…

  • Leader Resource 1: Order of Service - Dignity
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service for the opening of Workshop 4, Dignity. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of dignity. Participants will explore their own definitions of dignity and consider…

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Faith and Celebration
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 11, Faith and Celebration. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principles Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome everyone and explain that this workshop is a celebration of participants’ hard work and effort over the past weeks….

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Generosity
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 5, Generosity. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of generosity….

  • Leader Resource 1: Order of Service - Humility
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 2, Humility. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Reading Guided Meditation Poem Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of humility as the basis for honest and authentic interaction.

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Love
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 10, Love. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principles Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of love….

  • Leader Resource 1: Order of Service - Play
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 7, Play. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of play….

  • Leader Resource 1: Order Of Service - Trust
    From Principled Commitment

    Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 3, Trust. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of trust. Participants will explore what trust is, what its function is within a…

  • Leader Resource 1: Promoting The Program
    From Principled Commitment

    The following sample promotional materials can help you attract workshop participants. Sample Congregation Newsletter Announcement Love is usually credited as the basis for a healthy relationship, but other qualities are needed as well: generosity, collaboration, and play, to name a few. These…

  • Leader Resource 2: Empathy Role-Play
    From Principled Commitment

    Perform the skit twice. The first time, partner B will read only his/her dialogue, omitting the words in parentheses. The second time, partner B will read the words in parentheses to identify the different parts of his/her response….

  • Leader Resource 2: Loving Involves Commitment
    From Principled Commitment

    Offer these words on love from the Reverend Carter Heyward, a feminist and lesbian woman who was among the first women ordained as an Episcopal priest. Love, like truth and beauty, is concrete. Love is not fundamentally a sweet feeling; not, at heart, a matter of sentiment, attachment, or being…

  • Leader Resource 2: Sample Registration Form
    From Principled Commitment

    Principled Commitment is designed for partners’ joint participation — individuals, whether partnered or not, cannot participate alone. We welcome participation by people of all physical abilities. Our Unitarian Universalist congregation is wheelchair accessible. Let us know in advance if you will…

  • Leader Resource 2: Tender Points Guidelines
    From Principled Commitment

    Copy these points onto a newsprint page for use during Activity 4, Tender Points. To know me is to know my tender points, the sensitive and the sacred, and how they influence my life. To be my friend is to accept and respect all of those points as an integral part of my being….

  • Leader Resource 2: Thoughts on UU Humility
    From Principled Commitment

    You may wish to incorporate these thoughts into Activity 2, A Healthy UU Humility. The Reverend Forrest Church notes that the words human, humane, humanitarian, humor, humility, humble, and humus (the organic portion of soil) are all related….

  • Leader Resource 2: UU Trivia Hunt Answer Key
    From Principled Commitment

    Our congregation: What is the official name of our congregation? (Insert answer.) Who is the president/chairperson of the congregation? (Insert answer.) When was our congregation founded? (Insert answer.) In what year was our congregation’s building constructed?…

  • Leader Resource 3: A Model for Managing Change
    From Principled Commitment

    One of the most challenging aspects of a committed relationship is the need to manage change, whether that change is perceived as positive, negative, or neutral. In a simple sense, change means that things are no longer and may never again be the same….

  • Leader Resource 3: Gottman and the Four Horsemen
    From Principled Commitment

    How do we apply the idea of humility to the ways we communicate as couples? Do we need to be meek and noncommittal? Do we always need to communicate in “I statements”?…

  • Leader Resource 3: Personal Altar Questions
    From Principled Commitment

    Copy these questions onto a newsprint sheet for use during Alternate Activity 2, Personal Mini-Altars. Who am I? What are my strengths? What are my roles? What are my important values? What are my ethics? How do I want to relate to the world? How do I want to relate to individuals?…

  • Leader Resource 3: Sample Welcome Letter
    From Principled Commitment

    This letter may be mailed or e-mailed to participants ahead of time. Dear , Thank you for your interest in the Principled Commitment workshop series. We look forward to meeting you at the first workshop, which will begin promptly at on in the . Because the workshop discussions and activities are…

  • Leader Resource 4: Leading Principled Commitment as a Retreat
    From Principled Commitment

    The Principled Commitment workshops can be great resources for a couples’ retreat, or a short series of couples’ retreats. Using the workshops at a retreat requires adaptation. The following guidelines and sample schedules can assist you in creating an effective couples’ retreat with Principled…

  • Leader Resource 5: Welcoming Participants Who Are Hard Of Hearing
    From Principled Commitment

    These suggestions are designed to help your workshops be more welcoming and inclusive. Please refer to them as needed to adapt activities throughout the program. Hearing impairments affect people of all ages and range from mild to severe….

  • Leader Resource 6: Welcoming Participants Who Are Blind Or Have Low Vision
    From Principled Commitment

    Many people who are called “blind” have some vision. Some people may be able to read large print and move about without use of a white cane or guide dog in many or all situations, may be able to perceive light and darkness, and perhaps see some colors….

  • Leader Resource 7: Welcoming Participants Who Have Mobility Concerns
    From Principled Commitment

    In the US, 1.4 million people use scooters or wheelchairs. Millions more people use crutches, walkers, braces, or canes to help them get around. People may use different mobility aids at different times. Someone who uses a wheelchair or scooter may or may not also be able to walk….

  • Leader Resource 8: Participant Contact Information
    From Principled Commitment

    Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Address Phone Email Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Address Phone E-mail Names Mailing Addr…

  • Leader Resource 9: Refreshment Sign-up Sheet
    From Principled Commitment

    DateWorkshopNames ______Covenant_________________________________________ ______Humility_________________________________________ ______Trust_________________________________________ ______Dignity_________________________________________ ______Generosity_________________________________________…