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Emotional Intelligence for Leadership Development

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Emotional Intelligence—one of the recommended leadership development competencies—includes:

  • Forbearance, e.g. having self-control, especially when provoked.
  • Presence and functioning, i.e. a high level of self-awareness with an alignment between the body and the mind.
  • Knowing and taking responsibility for one’s own functioning in the system.
  • Modeling humility when a mistake is made.
  • Modeling grace when another makes a mistake.
  • Being aware of what one’s emotional triggers are.

Core Values

Unitarian leader William Ellery Channing held up the value of self-culture, i.e. developing the capacity to “look into oneself” to discern and live into a life that separates one’s own desires from pursuing one’s commitment to the faith community’s highest commitments.


  • Meditation
  • Yoga, Tai Chi or other spiritual practices
  • Forgiveness
  • Creating trusting, accountable relationships where you can help one another see your "blind spots"



Web Articles

On-Demand Webinars


  • Six Seconds: Emotional Intelligence for Positive Change

Online Self-Discovery Resources


About the Authors

Renee Ruchotzke

Rev. Renee Ruchotzke (ruh-HUT-skee) has served as a Congregational Life Consultant in the Central East Region since September of 2010. As program manager for Leadership Development, she is responsible for providing consultation, programming and training material (including webinars and videos) on...

Central East Region of the UUA

For more information, see the UUA.org page about the Central East Region.

For more information contact conglife@uua.org.

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