Bring home a small gift for your partner, for no reason at all. Plan a surprise weekend away. It doesn't have to be far away or expensive, as long as it's just the two of you. Leave a message on your partner's voice mail saying how important that person is in your life. Do a chore your partner...

Activity time: 45 minutes Materials for Activity Metal mint tins with hinged tops (one per participant) A variety of materials to cover and decorate the tins, such as fabric scraps, tissue paper, embroidery thread, small beads, sequins, and tiny bells Old magazines (a variety, for cutting out...

Activity time: 25 minutes Materials for Activity Copies of Handout 4: Who Are Unitarian Universalists? (one per small group) Pens or pencils Tables or hard surfaces for writing Newsprint Easel Markers Preparation for Activity Set up tables, or find books or other hard surfaces for writing.

Activity time: 30 minutes Materials for Activity Copies of Handout 3: Tender Points (one per participant) Leader Resource 2: Tender Points Guidelines Newsprint sheet with circle diagram (see Preparation) Newsprint sheet with list of guidelines (see Preparation) Easel Pens or pencils Tables or har...

Activity time: 35 minutes Materials for Activity Newsprint sheet with triangle diagram (see Preparation) Newsprint sheet with list of questions (see Preparation) Easel Copies of Handout 2: The Triangular Theory of Love (one per participant) Preparation for Activity Study Handout 2, The Triangular...

Activity time: 20 minutes Materials for Activity Newsprint Easel Markers Low-stick masking tape Clock, watch, or timer Bell or chime Copies of Handout 1: Saying "I Love You" Without the Usual Words (one per participant) Description of Activity Ask participants to recall how they felt during the...

Activity time: 10 minutes Description of Activity Invite participants to take turns briefly sharing insights they have had since the previous workshop on commitment. Ask: Since the last workshop, have you changed anything about how you relate as a couple?...

Activity time: 15 minutes Materials for Activity Copies of customized Taking It Home handout (see Preparation) Preparation for Activity Review the Taking It Home section of this workshop. Download it to your computer, customize it for your group, and make a printout or photocopy for each...

Activity time: 10 minutes Materials for Activity Altar or centering table Cloth for covering altar or centering table Chalice and candle Matches or lighter Leader Resource 1: Order of Service - Love Preparation for Activity Prepare the altar or centering table with the cloth you have brought, a...

Materials for Activity Name tags Markers Sign-in sheet Pen or pencil An agenda of this workshop's activities on newsprint or a digital slide (see Preparation) Optional: Computer, digital projector, and screen Optional: Copies of workshop series schedule Preparation for Activity Using the...

One of the most challenging aspects of a committed relationship is the need to manage change, whether that change is perceived as positive, negative, or neutral. In a simple sense, change means that things are no longer and may never again be the same....

Offer these words on love from the Reverend Carter Heyward, a feminist and lesbian woman who was among the first women ordained as an Episcopal priest. Love, like truth and beauty, is concrete. Love is not fundamentally a sweet feeling; not, at heart, a matter of sentiment, attachment, or being...

Follow this Order of Service as you lead the opening of Workshop 9, Commitment. Welcome Chalice Lighting Principle Guided Meditation Reading Welcome Welcome participants. Explain that this workshop is devoted to the concept of commitment....

My Greater World Bucket...

My Child Bucket...

My Personal Bucket...

Activity time: 15 minutes Materials for Activity Copies of Handout 1: Filling Your Bucket (one per participant) Pens or pencils Tables or hard surfaces for writing Optional: Self-adhesive colored dots (at least 50 per participant) Preparation for Activity Set up tables, or find books or other har...

Activity time: 20 minutes Materials for Activity Leader Resource 3: A Model for Managing Change Newsprint sheet with list of steps (see Preparation) Preparation for Activity On a sheet of newsprint, list these four steps: Understand what has happened Accept what can't be changed Put the past behi...

Activity time: 15 minutes Materials for Activity The newsprint list of skills from Activity 2: Signs of Commitment Easel Description of Activity This activity can follow directly from Activity 2, Signs of Commitment. Introduce the discussion with these or similar words: Being a member of a...

Activity time: 60 minutes Materials for Activity Roll of narrow poster paper or large sheets of newsprint 2 to 3 feet of paper per couple) Pens, pencils, or fine-point markers Tables Optional: Yardsticks, rulers, or other straightedge tools Preparation for Activity If you are using a roll of pape...