A Bird in the Hand
A Bird in the Hand

I sit alone, planning the rest of the day. Last night, I was joking and smoking, in broken Pashto, with the resident contingent of the AUP.* I introduced them to the beauty of Dominican tobacco, hand-rolled and perfectly aged. They all seemed to enjoy this symbol of Western democratic values, the fine cigar.

An AUP approached holding a rickety old bird cage, occupied by a rickety old bird. I wasn’t sure what to think as he set it in front of me. “Good,” he said and gave me a thumbs up.

Not wanting to be rude, I reciprocated the gesture. “Good, nice bird.” What else could I say when shown an Afghan’s bird?

“Is you bird,” He replied. “You keep.”

“No,” I tried to say, “I can’t keep a bird.” I stood to return the bird, but he turned and walked away. There I was, flabbergasted, holding my bird in my hand, wondering what to do.

In part, the bird was given in return for the cigars. A gesture of friendship, but even more, an attempt to be known across a deep cultural divide. I didn’t want to be rude, but the last thing I needed was a bird, a rickety old one at that. Luckily, another AUP who spoke better English than I speak Pashto returned the bird and conveyed my thankfulness for the gesture. Our new friendship remained intact, bird or no.

We share very little with the Afghans. Our cultures are stunningly different. Our concepts of human meaning and value have dissimilar foundations. Ours is the inherent value of the individual as an individual. Theirs is the meaning the individual gains from relatedness to tribe and clan.

However great our differences, this moment revealed to me an eternal truth: There is something at the core of humanity that makes us the same. We all long for connection. We all desire to be known as ourselves. This human need to be known, even across the widest rifts of culture, may be the one thing with the power to bring lasting peace to our world.

*AUP: Afghan Uniformed Police. A broad term referring to a variety of uniformed police personnel, distinct from the Afghan National Army. During his year in Afghanistan, Maj. Tyger worked primarily with the Afghan National Police.

About the Author

  • Major Reverend George Tyger is a United States Army Chaplain and ethics instructor at the U.S. Army Military Police School (USAMPS) at Fort Leonard Wood, MO. He teaches ethical decision-making, leadership, and character development to all incoming Military Police commissioned...

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