She called to ask if I would baptize her infant son.
I said, "What we do is like a baptism, but not exactly. And we normally do it only for people who are part of the church family. The next one we have scheduled is in May."
She said, "Could we come to talk with you about it anyway?"
They came to see me, the very young woman and her child and the child's very young father. She explained that the child had been born with a heart defect. He had to have a risky heart operation soon. She had asked the clergyman of her own church if he would baptize her son, and he had refused because she was not married to the baby’s father.
I told them that their not being married would not be an impediment to anything we might do, but that our child dedication ceremony still might not be what they were looking for.
I explained that our ceremony does not wash away any sin, it does not guarantee the child a place in heaven, it doesn't even make the child a member of the church.
In fact, I said, it doesn't change the child at all. What we expect is that it will change the rest of us in our relationship with the child, and with all children.
She listened patiently. When I was through she said, "All I want is to know that God blesses my baby."
In my mind I gasped at the sudden clarity in the room. I said, with a catch in my throat, "I think I can do that." And I did.