Neil Chethik, a longtime contributor to UU World, is a member of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Lexington, Ky.

He is author of VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think About Their Wives, Their Marriages, Sex, Housework, and Commitment (Simon & Schuster 2006) and FatherLoss: How Sons of All Ages Come to Terms with the Deaths of Their Dads (Hyperion 2001).

He lives in Lexington, Kentucky, with his wife, the Rev. Kelly Flood, and their son.