Emotional Intelligence for Leadership Development

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Emotional Intelligence—one of the recommended leadership development competencies—includes:

  • Forbearance, e.g. having self-control, especially when provoked.
  • Presence and functioning, i.e. a high level of self-awareness with an alignment between the body and the mind.
  • Knowing and taking responsibility for one’s own functioning in the system.
  • Modeling humility when a mistake is made.
  • Modeling grace when another makes a mistake.
  • Being aware of what one’s emotional triggers are.

Core Values

Unitarian leader William Ellery Channing held up the value of self-culture, i.e. developing the capacity to “look into oneself” to discern and live into a life that separates one’s own desires from pursuing one’s commitment to the faith community’s highest commitments.


  • Meditation
  • Yoga, Tai Chi or other spiritual practices
  • Forgiveness
  • Creating trusting, accountable relationships where you can help one another see your "blind spots"



Web Articles

On-Demand Webinars


  • Six Seconds: Emotional Intelligence for Positive Change

Online Self-Discovery Resources


About the Authors

Renee Ruchotzke

Rev. Renee Ruchotzke (ruh-HUT-skee) is a Congregational Life Consultant and program manager for Leadership Development.

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