Aging: Creating a Culture of Care
General Assembly 2014 Event 244
This event, sponsored by the Unitarian Universalist Society of Community Ministries, is scheduled to occur on Thursday, June 26, 2014; 2:15 - 3:30 p.m. Eastern Daylight Time, in Rhode Island Convention Center West Lobby.
The “silver tsunami” has arrived. This program provides practical guidance in meeting the needs of our aging population, grounded in a theology of interdependence. It addresses specific needs of the elderly in relationship to their congregations, friends and family as our culture makes transitions through the aging process.
- The Reverend Esther Hurlburt, A ministry dedicated to old people
Defining your vision
- Caring ministry rather than caring committee
Goal is to become an ecclesia ...an assembly of caregivers
- This is what it means to be church
- 67% rule
- No such thing as a primary caregiver
- Care receivers can also be caregivers! o Inter-generational participation
Inter-dependence: A love of mutual regard
- Promotes dignity by allowing/expecting to give as well as receive
- Caring with—not caring for
- Decreases self sacrifice and promotes self care
- Increases autonomy
- Shared responsibility rather than equal responsibilities
- Covenant: What are our response-abilities?
- Caring with our Heads, Hands, and Hearts
HEADS—Be willing to learn
- Dementia care
- Long distance caregiving
- Life care planning
- Memorial services
- Elder abuse
- Nursing home reform
- Safety at home
- Safety at church
- Lifting and transferring
- Resource fairs
- Legal issues
- Financial planning
- Caregiver support
- Hospital visitation
- HANDS—Physical presence
- Yard work
- Greeting cards
- Phone calls
- The Community Responds—The Logistics
- Grapevine—Fact or rumor
- Care for those present within congregational life
Care for those who are missing from congregational life
- Partner/Spouse/Primary caregiver
Assessment of Needs
When to intervene
- Life Crisis Forms
- If in doubt ask
- Compassionate confrontation
- When to wait
- Give permission to receive help
- Home visits
- Support systems
- Accessibility (vision, hearing, comfort, wheelchair etc.)
- Financial issues
- Fatigue or exhaustion
- Power of Attorney
- Health Care Surrogate
- Advanced Directives
When to cease intervention
- Illegitimate need
Establish the Assembly of Caregivers
- Preach it!
- Be the model of care-giving and invite others to join you
- Social Justice Committee
Care Team meetings
- Assessment and re-assessment of success of service
- Prevent duplication of service or absence of service
- Ensure elders are invited into and can participate in congregational life
Build relationships ... Create care teams
- Establish “parishes”
- Pin-map” neighborhoods by zip code
- “Get to know your neighbor parties”
- Ideas: Just to name a few
- Care beyond caroling: Every home bound or nursing home resident needs to be visited throughout the year.
- Care beyond casseroles: Prepare meals and eat with residents in their homes. Company is as nourishing as the food itself.
There is no excuse for not visiting elders in nursing homes.
- If it is “too depressing” then work for nursing home reform!
- Offer worship and religious education in nursing and retirement homes.
- Coordinate care with members of neighboring congregations.
- Establish a “buddy system” for those require attention while at church.
- Establish a “hello daily” program and a phone tree for emergency contacts.
- Schedule an inter-generational workday to do home repairs or yard work.
- Make home safety kits with flashlights, de-icer, and batteries etc.
- A Few Caveats
- Beware of compassion fatigue. Remember...it takes an assembly of caregivers.
- The needs of caregivers are every bit as important and the needs of care receivers.
- Do not underestimate the power of small acts of kindness and care.
- Have compassion for yourself so there is compassion in the room.
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