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Talking with Kids about Hate, Violence, and Trauma
Hate, Violence, and Trauma: Talking with Children
Faith Development, Families & Faith Development

Hateful and violent rallies of white supremacists are news we cannot ignore. As with the 2016 killings in an Orlando, Florida nightclub, the 2015 murders in a Charleston, South Carolina black church, the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing, and school shootings in Newtown, Connecticut and so many other places where acts of violence have occurred, one need not have been present at the scene to feel unnerved, angry, or shaken.

While action is a valid response, as parents and caregivers we must also find ways to help our children process what is happening emotionally and spiritually. 

These resources, developed or suggested by Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) staff, may help you, your family, and others in your faith community.


  • Making Meaning after Disaster (PDF) by Sarah Gibb Millspaugh, a Tapestry of Faith workshop for congregations, posted by the UUA Resource Development Office
  • Together in Faith (PDF): Finding Home in Times of Trauma or Disaster by Tracey L. Hurd, posted by the UUA Resource Development Office

Meditations and Readings

  • Beyond Absence: A Treasury of Poems, Quotations, and Reading on Death and Remembrance, collected by Edward Searl (Skinner House, 2005). See a prayer by Victoria Safford, page 117; "Love Abides," by Barbara Pescan, page 144; and "We trust that beyond the absence," by Anonymous, page154.
  • Mary Oliver's New and Selected Poems, Volume 1 (Beacon Press, 1994)

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Beyond Absence:
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Drawn from poets, philosophers, theologians and clergy, this inspiring collection will assist ministers, lay leaders and anyone seeking to express and explore the mystery and grief of death.

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