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Talking with Kids about Hate, Violence, and Trauma
Hate, Violence, and Trauma: Talking with Children
Children's Faith Development, Families & Faith Development, Keeping Children Safe, Trauma and Disaster Response

Hateful, violent rallies of white supremacists are news we cannot ignore. As with the 2016 killings in an Orlando, Florida nightclub; the 2015 murders in a Charleston, South Carolina black church; the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing; and school shootings in Newtown, Connecticut and so many other places, one need not have been present at the scene in Charlottesville to feel unnerved, angry, or shaken.

Similarly, one need not have directly suffered from Hurricane Harvey in Houston or Katrina in New Orleans to be frightened, angered, or upset by nature's power to cause harm.

For UUs, action is a valid response. At the same time, as parents and caregivers we must also find ways to help our children emotionally and spiritually process what is happening in and outside our communities. Faith development is enhanced when action is grounded in understanding. Please use these resources to help yourself, your family, and others.


Meditations and Readings

  • Beyond Absence: A Treasury of Poems, Quotations, and Reading on Death and Remembrance, collected by Edward Searl (Skinner House, 2005). See a prayer by Victoria Safford, page 117; "Love Abides," by Barbara Pescan, page 144; and "We trust that beyond the absence," by Anonymous, page154.
  • Mary Oliver's New and Selected Poems, Volume 1 (Beacon Press, 1994)

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Beyond Absence:
A Treasury of Poems, Quotations and Readings On Death and Remembrance

Edward Searl
From Skinner House Books
Drawn from poets, philosophers, theologians and clergy, this inspiring collection will assist ministers, lay leaders and anyone seeking to express and explore the mystery and grief of death.

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