okay
so we just finished chapter two and we
those are those four questions I think
we still have to come back and
um maybe think about question number
three again yeah
um and and I can reread the section if
you need me to okay okay
you know what I was telling Tommy the
other day
she ought to be in Community Theater she
is such a good actor he but thanks I
work in it oh I'm sure he didn't mean
that
I'm so sorry
I am so sorry
Tommy I promise you that you are a real
man to me
I don't think of you as a woman at all
I don't know my brain sometimes it gets
so messed up I guess
just because you've been shooting me for
so long and now I have to change I have
to think of you in another way six years
old Noggin a while to meet again updated
but I didn't mean and anything by it
I'm such an idiot how could I have
messed up so much I mean it's it's fine
no no it's not fine you deserve to have
your pronouns respected you know we're
both such big allies of the movement
after all I have a ton of trans friends
I March at a pride I want you to pride
parade this year and I have this big a
on my shirt for Ella yes it's true I saw
him and I was there and my lesbian Pride
gear yeah you're fortunate I just can't
get my head wrapped around so fast that
everything is changing
and you have to admit
you looks
you do look kind of feminine
maybe my brain is just confused because
you haven't had your
surgery
it's nothing to do with you and I
respect you as a person and as a man or
not or I'm not I'm a glittery man
I might say that right
or maybe it's just my hair
you have to understand I'm very old and
sad in my ways you know we'll practice
more I promise I've been trying to
correct people when you're not around
okay
um did you want me to reread that
section or
um we can probably go on to chapter
three for now okay yeah let's uh let's
do that
chapter three
wow yeah uh this one was a little hard
to watch yeah
um
I think
there's a lot going on here it's very
similar to the previous episode where
it's more about the person who messed up
than about the mistake or the person
who's been hurt and that's kind of where
you need to readjust your expectations I
think
and I think the other
really big part of this one that we
absolutely need to talk about
is waving the Ally flag
um yeah
just because you're an ally doesn't mean
that you're not going to make mistakes
right and it doesn't make it any better
when you do so bringing it up is just
sort of like a non-sequitur just sort of
reassuring yourself that you're a good
person and like I don't care if you're a
good person I just met you you know what
I mean like I mostly want to see how you
deal with the mistake and that's going
to tell me whether you're a good person
or not and by going on and on about what
you're a good person you are that really
it sets up an alarm flag that like maybe
you're not a good person and you're
overcompensating or something
well and it's also like
for me I I think it's kind of
dehumanizing when you know you're
talking about like oh I worked the pride
Booth or I was there as an ally or oh
don't worry I'm a lesbian you know it's
like cool
but that doesn't mean
that
you didn't hurt me right and you'd be
surprised how many lesbians are
transphobic like out there like oh you
know it's a I don't know why it's a
thing but it's a thing apparently
um so like you know being a different
sort of even being trans doesn't mean
you're immune to making mistakes right
and
everyone has
the ability to make mistakes right and
everyone's going to right regardless of
whether you're gay or trans or a lesbian
or bi or straight an ally white black
brown Latino you could have been doing
this work for 40 years and still make a
mistake Well when things are always
changing too right so
update your information right like you
know decades ago it was more perlite to
say transsexual now it's more like say
transgender it's just language changes
you gotta update a little bit you know
right and
you know even
you know 10 20 years ago
queer was still a huge insult right and
now it's something that for a lot of us
younger people we have embraced as an
identity marker right uh
and
it's okay to not know what you don't
know yeah just be willing to be
corrected and make mistakes yeah if
you're willing to update your men your
your memory banks you know what I mean
then we don't have a problem I'll I'll
let you know what you've done and you
say oh sorry and then we're good you
know right nobody nobody has to
flagellate themselves nobody has to you
know puff themselves up nobody has to go
on a tirade it's just part of life and
the more you kind of normalize like you
know making mistakes and being okay with
it the better we're gonna have better
time we're gonna have right just a quick
oh sorry correct yourself and then keep
going that's all you need right let's
see how Susan Steve and Tommy could have
done better
okay so we just finished chapter two
um and the four questions I think maybe
we should come out to that question
number three when we have more time for
discussion on that one because there was
a lot there yeah yeah um I can read the
next section if you want
you know what I'm gonna stay at the time
of day other day she had to go into
Community Theater she is so good at it
but um thanks I work in it I'm sure he
didn't mean that I'm so sorry Tommy he
ought to go into theater though
don't you think Susan actually I agree
you know I've got a really good friend
in a community theater program up in
Lakewood and they are about to do
Phantom now that you make a really
Fanta I can't sing but thanks for
thinking of me maybe I can be one of the
background characters oh nonsense I'm
very use singing to church you're very
good at it hey if you guys want a
screeching cat as your star you know
that's on you I guess you know where to
find me
all right so section four begins with
two friends if it's true you believe it
to be true
okay okay