Novelist Faith Baldwin wrote, "I think one should forgive and remember... to look, even regularly, upon what you remember and know you've forgiven is achievement." If there are times when we might celebrate living up to our highest standards, times when we have sought or granted forgiveness may be among these.
Can you think of a time when to forgive was extremely difficult, yet you managed it? Ethicist and theologian Lewis B. Smedes wrote, "You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well." Perhaps you have not perfected your forgiving. Moments may still arise when you feel anger or shame at a memory of being wronged. Yet, if you can move to a place where you are able to "wish them well," you can feel good about not settling for the easy way. Remember, we need not be perfect, but only to strive to be the best person we can be. Youth, adults, all of us are all still "becoming."