November 1, 2004
As I considered a project for a college course I was taking, I was mindful of an experience I had in my Unitarian Universalist (UU) congregation two years earlier. It is a mid to large size congregation and one where I felt very much at home in the choir as my smaller more intimate group. In 1993 some family dynamics created an atmosphere that affected my ability to attend church. I was so stressed that I needed Sunday mornings to enjoy the little quiet time I had in my own home. I was on emotional overload and had the distinct notion that, if I went to church and someone asked me how I was, I would burst into tears. I did not feel safe with that possibility.
What I didn’t anticipate was that no one from the church, where I had been a member for ten years, would call to find out how I was and why I was not coming to church. The only ones I talked to were the three close women friends with whom I talked at least once a week.
The minister didn’t call, the Caring Committee didn’t call. It seemed that no one missed me or cared that I was not there. I asked the minister about this at one point and was told that if I was having a crisis I needed to contact the church. I responded that, when someone is in a crisis situation, it is not always easy to make that call. I truly believed that, in a church community, there should be some system of caring for the “flock” whether the individual members were there consistently or whether some had dropped off the radar screen. I almost left the church at this time but the draw of the choir won out and the family situation eased. Because I loved this spiritual community, I decided to stick with it and, when the opportunity arose to do a project for a class, I came up with the idea for the Remembership Committee.
Developed by Carol Hosmer, 1995
Members of this committee will be recruited from the congregation. The idea is to call every member of the congregation 3-4 times during the year. The calls will have NOTHING to do with a request for money or services.
Items to be covered in each call:
Possible other reasons to call:
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Last updated on Sunday, December 22, 2013.
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