Change and Conflict Skills for Leadership Development
Change and Conflict Skills are part of the twelve recommended leadership development competencies.
Change Skills include:
- Understanding the dynamics of change and being able to engage in change strategies.
- Being able to identify technical vs. adaptive challenges and respond accordingly.
Conflict Skills include:
- Understanding the difference between unhealthy and creative conflict.
- Being able to diffuse unhealthy conflict.
- Being able to be present to and engage in healthy conflict.
We are the “Living Tradition” that continually engages with our practices and beliefs to discern the “permanent” from the “transient.” We know that we must continually breathe new life into our congregations.
- Practice one “change of the Day.”
- Switch roles with someone—at work, at play, at church or with the family.
- Spend time reflecting on specific changes using different models of change.
- Understand your own personality type or style when under stress using your favorite personality typing system (e.g. Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, etc.).
- John Kotter: The Heart of Change (YouTube, 5:19)
- Ronald Heifetz: The nature of adaptive leadership (YouTube, 8:59)
- Robert Kegan: Immunity to Change (YouTube, 14:03)
- Failure (YouTube, 8:20): The Secret of Success
- Leading Change (YouTube, 18:46) with Gil Rendle at UU University
- The Rollercoaster of Change (YouTube, 11:50) with Gil Rendle at UU University
- Church Conflict (YouTube, 32:00)—A Systems Perspective with Peter Steinke at UU University
- "Two Loops Model" of change (6:56)—Berkana Institute (Margaret Wheatley and Deborah Frieze)
- “A Mediation Simulation” (YouTube) with Dr. Nancy Love of the PULSE Institute explains a five-part model of the meditation process
- John Kotter's 8-Step Change Model
- Finding the Optimal Level of Conflict by David R. Brubaker
- Lifecycle of Emergence: Using Emergence to Take Social Innovation to Scale By Margaret Wheatley and Deborah Frieze, 2006
- 7 times when it's not a good time to change by Ron Edmonson
- Respectfully Disagreeing: How Dialogue Works to Transform Conflict by Marlis McCollum
- How to Inspire Behavior Change by Karin Hurt
- A Short Primer on Congregational Hostage Negotiations by Derek Penwell
- Power of a Positive No (PDF) for Oxford Leadership by William Ury
- Leading in a Culture of Change by Jeffrey D. Jones
- Neophobia by Susan Nienaber
- Getting Unstuck by the Rev. Karen Brammer (Podcast and Article)
- Dealing with Difﬁcult People by Don Skinner (Podcast and Article)
- Stand Up to Problem People by Don Skinner (Podcast and Article)
- Change in Small Congregations by Ken Brown (Podcast and Article)
- Take Time to Covenant by Eunice Benton (Podcast and Article)
- How to Rapidly Navigate Change in a Traditional Church Context – An Interview with Ron Edmondson
- Your Excuses are Gone—How to Grow a Big Church Anywhere (Even In New England). An Interview with Josh Gagnon
- To Dwell Together in Peace (Safety Policies 102—Covenant) (free registration required): Covenants and Right Relations Policies with Frances Sink and Rev. Renee Ruchotzke
- Drawing the Line (Safety Policies 106—Disruptive Behavior) (free registration required): Disruptive Behavior Policies and Procedures with Rev. Renee Ruchotzke
- 10 Good Ways to Manage Difficult Behavior with Nancy Combs Morgan and Lisa Presley
- Practicing Pluralism: Dealing with Conflict with Rev. Georgette Wonders and Rev. Ian Evison
- Leading Change in Our Congregations (YouTube) 2007 UU University with Alban Institute consultant Gil Rendle
- Leading Change in Changing Times with the Rev. Renee Ruchotzke (nominal fee)
- Leading Adaptively with the Rev. Renee Ruchotzke (nominal fee)
- Overcoming Our Immunity to Change (YouTube, 36:56) with Dr. Tod Bolsinger presenting at the Presbytery of Los Ranchos.
- Unitarian Universalist Association Conflict Management Resources
- Congregational Size Theory for UU Congregations
- Congregational Life Dynamics and Conflict Management (PDF, 23 pages): An Application of Family Systems Theory: Part 2: Conflict Management
- Conflict Management in Congregations David B. Lott, ed.
- Congregational Fitness: Healthy Practices for Layfolk by Denise W. Goodman
- Difficult Conversations: Taking Risks, Acting with Integrity by Katie Day
- Developing Your Conflict Competence: A Hands-On Guide for Leaders, Managers, Facilitators, and Teams by Craig E. Runde
- A Door Set Open: Grounding Change in Mission and Hope by Peter L. Steinke
- Leading Change in the Congregation by Gilbert Rendle
- Memories, Hopes, and Conversations: Appreciative Inquiry and Congregational Change by Mark Lau Branson
- The Practice of Adaptive Leadership: Tools and Tactics for Changing Your Organization and the World by Ron Heifetz, Marty Linsky, Alexander Grashow
- Leading Change Without Losing It: Five Strategies That Can Revolutionize How You Lead Change When Facing Opposition by Carey Nieuwhof